Nine Steps  to More Effective Parenting

Here are five out of nine child rearing tips that can help you feel more fulfilled as a parent and enjoy your kids more, too.

1.     1.  Nature your child’s self Esteem-Kids develop their sense of self as babies when they see themselves through their parent’s eyes. Your tone of voice, your body language, and every expression are absorbed by your kids. Your words and actions as apparent affect their self esteem more than anything else.

Praising accomplishments, however small, will make them feel proud , letting kids do things independently will make them feel capable and strong, By contrast belittling comments or comparing a child unfavourably with another will make kids feel worthless

Choose your world carefully and compassionate, let your kids know that every one makes mistake and that you still love them even when you don’t live their behavior
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2.     2.  Catch kids being good

Have you ever stopped to think about how many times you react negatively to your kids in a given day? You might find yourself criticizing far more often than complimenting. How would you feel about a boss who treated you with that negative guidance ,even if it was well intentioned?

The more effective approach is to catch kids doing something right: You made your bed without being asked –That’s terrific or i was watching you playing with your sister and you were very patient.” These statements will do more to encourage good behaviour over the long run than repeated scolding’s.

Make a point of finding something to praise every day, Be generous with rewards – your love, hug and compliments can work wonders and are often reward enough.

3.Set limits and be consistent with your discipline

Discipline is necessary in every household, The goal of discipline is to help kids choose acceptable behaviours and learn self control. They may test the limits you establish for them, but they need those limits to grow into responsible adults.

Establish house rules help kids to understand your expectations and develop self control, some rules might include: no TV until home work is done, and no hitting, name calling, or hurtful teasing allowed

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4.Make time for your kids

It if often difficult for parents and kids to get time together for family meal ,let alone spending quality time together, But there is probably nothing kids would like more. Leave the dishes in the sink and take a walk after dinner. Kids who aren’t getting the attention they want from their parents often act or misbehave because they’re sure to be noticed that way.

Don’t feel guilt if you’re a working parent. It is the many little things you can do – Like making popcorn, playing cards, window shopping that kids will remember

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5.Be Good Role Model,

Young kids learn a lot about how to act by watching their parents. The younger they are, the more cues they take from you, Before you lash out or blow your top in front of your child, think about this: is that how you want your child to behave when angry? Be aware that you’re constantly being observed by your kids.

Studies shows that children who hit usually have a role model  for aggression at home.

Model the traits you wish to cultivate in you kids: respect, friendliness ,honesty, kindness, tolerance. Exhibit unselfish behaviour. Do things to the people without expecting a reward. Express thanks and offer compliments. Above all treat your kids the way you expect other people to treat you.

 Mpendwa msomaji hebu pitia kwanza hizo tano, halafu tataendele tena, Enjoy