MFUNDISHE MTOTO KURUDISHA KITU AMBACHO SI CHAKE

MFUNDISHE MTOTO KURUDISHA KITU AMBACHO SI CHAKE

Wazazi watoto wetu wanapokuwa mashuleni huwa wanachukuliana vitu vyao, mfano mtoto wangu siku moja alikuja na saa ya rafiki yake, nikamuuliza mbona una saa ambayo si yako, akasema nilimuomba rafiki yangu akanipa nivae, tena amesema ni yangu kabisa. Ukweli ni kwamba ilibidi nimwambie mtoto wangu amrudishie rafiki yake saa yake kwani saa ile si yake. Na pia nikamwambia wazazi wake watamuuliza saa yake iko wapi

Kwa mfano huo naomba wazazi  tushirikiane na walimu, kwani mara mtoto akipoteza kitu chochote, nafikiri kitu cha kwanza cha kufanya utamuuliza mwalimu wa darasa na ikitokea shuleni hutapata majibu ya kuridhisha utakuwa huna la kufanya. Kumbe ungemdadisi mtoto kwamba umempa nani saa, au kitu chochote kilichopotea angekwambia amepotezea wapi

Wazazi mtakubaliana na mimi mara nyingi watoto wetu wanapoteza vitu kama penseli, ruler, kichongeo na chupa za juice, folder na n.k . Utajikuta unanunua vitu hivyo mara kwa mara mpaka unachoka na katika hali ya kawaida hutaweza kumwacha mtoto aende shule bila kalamu au ruler hivyo utakuwa unanunua mara kwa mara. Hii ni changamoto  kwa mzazi na mwanae wa shule, ikiwa ni pamoja na kumuuliza mtoto na kumfundisha jinsi ya kutunza vitu vyake, na kumfundisha kukumbuka kuchukuwa kalamu au saa yake ikiwa amempa mwenzie au rafiki yake. Kingine cha msingi ni sisi wazazi kuwachunguza watoto wetu ikiwa wamekuja na vitu ambavyo si vyao na kumshauri kurudisha kwa rafiki au mwenzie aliye vichukuwa kwake.

Ili kwa kiasi kupunguza upotevu wa vitu vya shule kwa watoto wetu ni kufuatilia na kuwafundisha jinsi ya kutunza vitu vinavyowahusu, pia kumchunguza mwanao anapokuja na kitu ambacho si chake kumshauri akirudishe shuleni na kumpatia mwalimu. Kwani walimu huwa wanakuwa na taarifa za upoteaji wa vitu vya wanafunzi hivyo inakuwa rahisi pia kwao tukishirikiana nao kwa namna hiyo

FATHER'S DAY

FATHER’S DAY HERE I COME

Mothers let us celebrate this Father’s day.

When is the last time to visit yor father, the world father’s day is 17^TH of June, pls do something, If you have some differences this is the time to make piece

What do people do?

On Father's Day, many people make a special effort to visit their father. They often take or send cards and gifts. Common Father's Day gifts are ties, socks, underwear, sweaters, slippers and other items of clothing. Other people give tools for household maintenance or garden work, luxury food items or drinks.

Many Father's Day gifts have slogans such as "The World's Best Dad", "For My Father" or just a simple "Dad" on them.  Photographs of children can be printed on desk calendars, mugs, T-shirts, mouse mats, bags and even ties. Many fathers are expected to take these to the office to remind them of their families while they are working

Some families celebrate Father's Day by planning an outing or weekend trip, perhaps just for the male members of the family. This may be a simple walk in the countryside or a whole planned "experience".  Other families organize a special meal at home or in a pub or restaurant. A common Father's Day meal is a traditional roast dinner with meat, stuffing, potatoes and vegetables, which can be eaten in a pub and accompanied by pints of ale or lager.

MWANANGU ANAKOJOA KITANDANI

MWANANGU ANAKOJOA KITANDANI , ANA MIAKA 12, NIFANYEJE,

Kitendo cha mtoto kukokoa kitandani akiwa na umri wa miaka zaidi ya kumi kweli si kitu cha kupuuza ni vizuri kutafuta njia za kumsaidia kuna njia amabzo mimi binafsi nimezitumia na zimenisaidia, na nilipowashirikisha baadhi ya marafiki zangu zimewasaidia,

Moja wapo ya njia hizo ni ushirikiano hapo nyumbani, kati ya mzazi na mtoto, unatakiwa kumshauri mtoto kutokula vitu vya majimaji masaa2 kabla hajaenda kulala, ikiwezekana anywe maji na vitu vingine kama soda au juice masaa 2 kabla hajakwenda kulala,

Pia anatakiwa kabla hajalala kuhakikisha hana mkojo ndani ya kibofu chake , namaanisha kwamba mtoto aende akakojoe kabla hajalala.

Pia ni vizuri usiku kuwe na mtu anakwenda kumwamsha ili aende akakojoe,lada ni dada au mtu yeyeto ukishtuka usiku labda unakwenda kujisaidia ni vizuri utumie wakati huo kumshtua naye aende kujisaidia.

Siku ikitokea kwa bahati mbaya amekojoa kitandani ni vizuri, kumuelewa, na kwa hakika atajisikia vizuri ikimuelewa, kwani hata yeye mtoto sidhani kama anapenda hali hiyo ya kujikojolea.

Kuna baadhi ya wazazi wanawapitisha watoto mitaani na kuwatangazia kuwa wanakojoa kitandani, au pia wanawatangazia kwa marafiki zao mashuleni au mtaani kweli hapo unakuwa ujamsaidia mtoto ila unamuaibisha tu.

Ukiangalia kwa undani hata mtoto mwenyewe hapendi kabisa, ila inakuwa ni hali tu imejitokeza hivyo ni vema kumsaidia na si vizuri kumuabisha kwani hali hiyo inamuumiza zaidi

KITOVU CHA MTOTO, NA URIJALI?

KUNA UHUSIANO GANI KATI YA URIJALI NA KITOVU CHA MTOTO,

Nimesikia wazazi mbalimbali wakiongele swala la kitovu cha mtoto mchanga kudondokea kwenye uume wa mtoto kuwa unaleta madhara hapo baadae, Eti wanasema mtoto huyo ambaye kitovu chake kilidondokea kwenye uume wake atakuwa si rijali je kuna ukweli hapo?

Pia nimeona wazazi walimuwekea kidoti cheusi mtoto mchanga kwenye paji ati, kuzuia kwikwi inahusu vipi? Kumvalisha mtoto kitambaa chausi mkononi au kiunoni jamani inakuwaje, zaidi ya yote mtoto akiwa na kikoozi ambacho hakijapona kwa muda kidogo wanasema anakimeo?

Inakuwaje wewe mama umetoka kujifungua na unapelekwa kwa wazazi wako ati ukale uzazi kwa muda wa miezi 3, na huyo baba uliye zaa naye unamwacha ati hana uzoefu, kwani wewe unao, huoni kama unawasumbua wazazi wako, wakulee wewe na kisha wakulelee mwanao na zaidi ya yote ukae huko miezi zaidi ya 3 , sasa huyo baba mtoto atajua lini kulea mtoto mchanga, Baadhi ya watoto wachanga huwa wanalia sana usiku hivyo vilio huyo baba takuwa amevisikia saa ngapi kwake inakuwa ni adithi tu, mtoto ni wenu wote lakini kusota usiku kubembeleza mtoto usote mwenyewe na wazazi wako hebu fikiria. Kuna baadhi ya akina baba hawataki hata kuwashika watoto wao ati wanadai wanaona kama wanawaumiza jamani hutaki kushika mtoto wako mwenyewe?

Mimi ninaonelea hivi, mara mtu unapojifungua maadamu umeolewa na mumewako yupo hapo ni vizuri ukae hapohapo na usiende popote, mujifunze wote kwa pamoja kumlea mtoto wenu. Wewe mama unatakiwa ufanye juhudi za makusudi kumshirikisha mumeo sio unaambiwa tu nenda kwa mama ndio anajua na wewe unakubali, Ikiwa mtahitaji msaada wa kulea ni bora msaidizi huyo aje hapo kwako na akuelekeze nakisha aende. Zaidi ya yote madakitari wa watoto wapo kila kona hivyo usihofu kuwa jasiri.

ANAJUA KUSEMA ASANTE, KUSALIMIA JE?

MWANAO ANAJUA KUAMKIA NA KUSEMA ASANTE,

 Katika mila na desturi zetu watanzania tunatakiwa kuwafundisha watoto wetu tabia ambazo zinakubaliwa na jamii zinazotuzunguka. Moja ya tabia hizo ni tabia ya kusalimia, na kusema asante.

Kwa kweli usipomfundisha mtoto wako angali mdogo tabia hizi itakuwa ni vigume kuzifanya anapokuwa na umri mkubwa au hata kama atakuwa anasalimia ni mpaka akumbushwe. Hivi umeshawahi kutana na rafiki au jamaa na mtoto anakakataa kusalimia , unajisikiaje kweli inatia aibu mwenzenu yalinikuta .

Kwa kweli inapendeza sana mtoto anapokuwa na tabia nzuri, inapendeza pale unapompatia zawadi, au unapomfanyia kitu mtoto akasema asante, au nyie mwaonaje , Mimi imenisumbua sana kwa mtoto wangu alikuwa hawezi kumsalimia mtu bila kumwambia , mara nikutanapo na rafiki ,jamaa au ndugu kweli ilikuwa inani aibisha kwani ni mpaka aambiwe hujambo,  ndio naye atajibu sijambo, halafu inabidi umwambie tena sema shikamoo, ndi atasema shikamoo, kweli inatia aibu.

Sasa basi siku mmoja akaniuliza hivi mama how do you say shikamoo in English?

Kwa wenzetu wa ulaya wanapenda sana kusema sorry au, neon please, au kindly, au excuse me, haya ni maneno mazuri ya kuonyesha unyenyekevu na kujali mtu mwingine, mara nyingi mtumiaji wa maneno haya, anatumia pale ambapo anataka kufanya jambo au afanyiwe jambo, lakini anajua wazi kitu atakachokifanya kinaweza kisiwe kizuri kwa mtu mwingine, au kikamkwaza mtu mwingine, hivyo kwa kujali hali hiyo  na ndio maana atatumia maneno haya.

Kwetu sisi pia kuna baadhi ya  watu wanayatumia maneno haya pia pale tu anapozungumza kiingereza ila anapozungumza Kiswahili mara nyingine watu wanajisahau kutumia maneno kama haya ambayo ni, samahani, tafadhali, 

UKIWA NA KIPATO KIKUBWA NI TATIZO?

MAMA AKIWA NA KIPATO KIKUBWA KULIKO BABA KATIKA FAMILIA NI TATIZO,

Katika pitapita zangu, nime gundua kuwa mama akiwa na kipato kikubwa kuliko baba katika familia ni tatizo kubwa kwa kwa baadhi ya familia.

Binafsi nime shuhudua mama akijishusha sana ili kuchukua nafasi yake ya kuwa mtiifu kwa mume wake hata kama kipato chake ni kikubwa kuliko cha mume wake. Lakini basi bado inakuwa ni tatizo kwani mume Yule mwenye kipato kidogo bado anajisikia kutawaliwa, kutoheshimiwa na kudharauliwa. Mwingine anakuwa mkali na kudiriki kusema au kwa vile wewe unapata pesa nyingi, naona hunieshimu hata kidogo, Wanaume hawa wanakuwa walalamishi sana hata ukifanya kitu kidogo  cha maendeleo nyumbani basi atalalamika hujanishirikisha,

Kuna baadhi ya wanaume huchukua nafasi hii ya kutoelewana na kuanzisha mahusiano mengine ya familia na mwanamke mwingine ambaye yeye anajiona kuwa juu zaidi kipesa, sasa basi anaishia kuwa na familia mbili yaani ya kwa mke wake wa ndoa ambaye kwake yeye anamfanya benki anakuwa anachukuwa pesa na kwenda kuilea ile familia ndogo aliyonayo. Hebu tuchangie hili .

NAIROBI YALIPUKA TENA

Nairobi yalipuka tena , ila kitu cha kumshukuru mungu hakuna mtu aliyekufa, ila cha kusikitisha ni kuona hali ya majengo na mazingira ya yalivyoharibika, who is behind this this time ?

TOYS ZOTE NI NZURI?

TOYS  TUNAZO WANUNULIA WATOTO ZINASAIDIAJE ?

Wazazi tunawapenda sana watoto wetu, kiasi kwamba tunapenda kuwanunulia kila kitu amabacho Wapenda, kuna wakati mtoto anapenda toys nyingine ambazo zinapelekea kumfanya mtoto afanye au awe na tabia mbaya. Mfano ukimnunulia toy ya bunduki hapo moja kwamoja unamfundisha kuwa mpiganaji,mgomvi na na wakati mwingine atakuambia nitakupiga bunduki  nitakuua na bunduki unaona sasa hii inaonyesha kabisa si zawadi nzuri kwa mtoto ,kwani hivyo ndivyo anavyowaambia watoto wenzake anapokuwa anacheza nao.

Umeshawahi sikia huko nchi za wenzetu, baadhi ya wanafunzi wamekutwa na matukio mbalimbali ya kutumia silaha wakiwa mashuleni,  na wakati mwingine kuzitumia kuwauwa wanafunzi wanzao.Kitu kama hicho kinakuwa kimeanzia utotoni, labda watoto kama hao walikuwa wakitumia bunduki za toi na kadhalika.

Kitu cha msingi ni sisi wazazi kuangalia ni toys za aina gani tuwanunulie watoto wetu, hivi ukimnunulia toy ya bunduki unamfundisha nini?

Hivi umeshawahi kumnunulia mtoto kitabu badala ya toy, tunaamasishana kusoma vitabu,lakini hatujafanya jitihada za makusudi kuwafundisha watoto kupenda vitabu kama zawadi na pia kuvisoma pamoja. Hebu kama hujawahi mnunulia mtoto kitabu kama zawadi siku moja ukasema leo sikununulii toy nakununulia kitabu na ufanye hivyo marakwa mara kweli utaleta mabadiliko mazuri, Ili kuwa na kizazi kinachopenda kusoma vitabu ni vizuri sisi wazazi kubadilisha shopping list na kuongezea kununua vitabu katika list hiyo, Hebu jiulize kama unavyokwenda shopping huwa unapitia book shop? ,  umesha wahi kuingia book shop na watoto wako? Na si kuvinunua tu na kuvisoma pia kama wewe hupendi kusema msomee mwanao. Tubadilike kwani watoto wetu hujifunza kutoka kwetu. 

LOOk what is Happening in Zanzibar

ZANZIBAR KUNA NINI?

Huwezi amini ili ni swali  anajiuliza kila mtu, anayependa amani, jamani mbona hatujazoea vitu hivi, akina mama na watoto je wanakimbiaje, hebu ona . Iko njia nzuri tu ya kutatua au kurekebisha pale ambapo hapakosawa hebu tuzungumzeni.

TUMWAMBIE au???

TUMWAMBIE AU Atajua mwenyewe!

Jamani ni kitu cha kawaida siku izi kusikia mtu anakuambia unakifua wewe, au una moyo kama unao lengo likiwa akuambie jambo linalokuhusu hasa hasa ni mahusiano kati ya mume wako au mke wako na mtu mwingine.

Nimeshuhudia rafiki ndugu, dada ,kaka na shemeji wakiumizwa na mahusiano yao ya mke au mume, kutokana na baada ya kugundua uhusino uliopo either mume na mwanamke mwingine, au mke na mwanamume mwingine. Muhusika akiwa wa mwisho kabisa kugundua uwepo wa mahusiano hayo, kuna waliochukuwa takribani miaka kadhaa kugundua uhusiano kati ya mwenzi wake na mtu mwingine. Kuna waliopata bahati ya kuwa na watoto wadadisi na wanaogundua mahusiano tofauti kwa wazazi wao ambao pia kwa namna mmoja au nyingine waliwasaidia wazazi wao kugundua mahusiano hayo yasio halali.

Kuna wahusika wengine baada ya kugundua kuwa uwepo wao haujagundulika ndipo wanadiriki kumpigia simu mama mahusika na kumwambia hivi unajua mimi ni mke mwenzio, tena ninauhusiano na mume wako sasa ni miaka kumi , tena tumejenga na tuna mtoto wewe hujui? Tena nishakuja hapo kwako, nikalala wakati wewe umesafiri, na tena kwenye msiba wa mkwe wako nilikuwepo ila ulikuwa unifahamu Just imagine.

Lakini ngoja nikupe moyo jibu ni rahisi (so what???)

Kinachomuumiza ni kwamba wewe rafiki yake ulijua, dada, kaka na wengine mnaomfahamu mlikuwa mnajua juu ya mahusiano ya mume wake na mtu mwingine, hakuna aliye thubutu kumwambia Yule dada, Yule mama, hatimaye siku mmoja anagundua halafu unamwambia sikuweza kukwambia kwani ningevunja ndoa yako, jamani hii ni haki kweli? Hii ni story ya mdau wa blog hii hebu changia tumbambie au atajua mwenyewe?

SIMU ZA DHARURA

EMERGENCY CALLS,

SIMU ZA DHARURA,

Wazazi  mshawahi kufikiria kama ajali yoyote ikitokea wewe ukiwa haupo kuna namba za kupiga simu kutoa taarifa, Nafikiri kila mtu anajua namba ya simu 911, lakini si kila kitu au kila ajali unapiga hii namba, Majumbani mwetu tumezungwa na ajali nyingi na kila tukio la ajali linawatu au kampuni inalolishughulikia hivyo ni vema kujua namba hizo

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Muhimu zaidi kwa wale tunao waachia nyumba wasaidizi, ni vizuri kuziweka namba za simu  mahali ambapo ni rahisi kwa msicha wa kazi kuziona na kupiga mara apatapo ajali yoyote. Wasaidizi wetu pia wanasimu ni vizuri ziwe na pesa ya kupigia na sio kupokelea tu, kwani mara nyingine msaidizi wako atahitaji kupiga simu kama kitu chochote kibaya kimetoke.

Ajali ninazozizungumzia hapo ni kama vile short ya umeme inayoweza kusababisha moto, mtoto kuanguka na kuumia kiasi atahitaji gari ya wagonjwa, mtoto kutumbukia kwenye shimo,kuangukiwa na ukuta, mtoto kupata homa kali sana, kuugua ghafla kwa mtu yeyote kiasi cha kuhitaji msaada, kuvamiwa na majambazi na ajali nyingine ,

Namba zinazojulikana nafikiri ni za Polisi, zima moto na Tanesco, Lakini si vibaya ukaong  ezea namba ya gari la wagonjwa au kampuni yoyote ya ulinzi huwezi jua kama nani atapatikana kama ajali itatokea. Baadhi ya emergency Number ni Ambulance 022-112,Fire 022-112, security companies knight support fire & rescue 0754-777100

Wazazi tunawajibu wa kuchukua taadhari hivyo ni vizuri ujue hizo namba na pia watoto wetu tuwafundishe kujua hizo namba pia.

JE UNAJUA KUWA WATOTO WANAGEZANA TABIA ZAO?

UNAJUWA KUWA WATOTO WANAGEZANA TABIA ZAO,

Wazazi tunajua kuwa watoto wajifunza kwa kuangalia, kufundishwa na kuiga tabia za watu wengine hasa watoto wenzao wanaocheza nao. Mara nyingi sana mtoto atakuja kukuambia mama ninunulie begi kama la rafiki yangu, au viatu kama vya rafiki yangu, hata kama viatu au begi lake halija chakaa, ila ni basi tu wanapenda kuigana, kuna wengine wanadiriki hata kupanga ratiba yao ya week end wakiwa shuleni.

Mtoto anakuambia mama twende labda spurs marafiki zangu watakuwa huko jumapili, na mwingine atakuambia nipeleke sine club nilimwambia rafiki yangu nitakuwa huko. Si vibaya kama unaweza kufanya hivyo mtoto anavyokuambia, ila ni vizuri kuwa makini na ratiba yako ya wiki nzima,Mara nyingi usipofanya hivyo mtoto alivyokuambia anakasirika, hivyo basi ni vizuri kumwambia kwa upendo kwamba kwanini hutafanya hivyo yeye atakavyo, ila ni rahisi kukuelewa kama huwa mnautaratibu wa kupanga ratiba yenu kama familia.Mara zote ni vizuri kumshirikisha mtoto ratiba za hapo nyumbani kama vile watoto wote wanajua kuwa jumatatu mpaka ijumaa ni siku za shule , ni vizuri pia kuwaambia jumamosi mtafanya nini, au jumapili mtakwenda kanisani na baadae mtakwenda wapi, na ukimwahidi lazima ufanye kama hutafanya ni vizuri umwambie pia, ili asikuone muongo, kwani watoto wanaamini wazazi wao wasema kweli daima

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Kumbe ni vizuri basi kuwa na ratiba ambayo familia inaifahamu na iwe imepangwa pamoja kama familia,ili kuepusha kubadilisha ratiba ambayo huwa mnaifuta. Familia nyingi zinakuwa na utaratibu wa kuwa na familia zao siku za week end lakini huwa imo ndani ya ratiba? au mnaamua tu siku hiyo hiyo kwamba leo twendeni beach,

Unajua watoto ni watu wenye serikali yao ndogo kama wenyewe walivyo, hebu sikia hii story, kuna mtoto wa miaka 8 siku hiyo amerudi shule katika mazungumzo ya kawaida na dada yake nyumbani akamjibu vibaya dada yake, na bahati nzuri mama yake alisikia vile mtoto alivyomjibu dada, Kesho yake mama akamuuliza mtoto mbona jana ulimjibu dada vibaya, mtoto akajibu, unafikiri pale nimemjibu vibaya la, laiti ungejua vile marafiki zangu wanavyowajibu dada zao vibaya ndio ungejua. Mama akamuuliza sasa wewe umejifunza wapi hiyo tabia mtoto akajibu kwa marafiki zangu.

Sasa basi akina mama tuchukue nafasi zetu vizuri hasa kwa kuangalia marafiki za watoto wetu, na vile vile lugha wanazozungumza na wasaidizi wetu nyumbani

JE UNAJUA DAWA YA KUZUIA MTOTO KUKOJOA KITANDANI

Kwetu sisi wazazi mtoto kukojoa kitandani ni kitu kama cha kawaida kwa umri fulani ila ukifika umri wa miaka 10 na kuendelea hapo sasa tunaanza kuwa na wasiwasi ila kuna kitu tunaweza kufanya. je unafahamu kitu hicho karibu uchangangie.

Ukiwa unanyonyesha anaweza kupata Mimba?

wanawake wengi tumekua tukijiuliza swali hili na pengine imekua ngumu kupata majibu.

Kiufupi jibu ni ndio! unaweza kupata mimba wakati unanyonyesha na mara nyingi inakua sio nzuri sana maana unakua hujajiandaa kiakili.

inahitaji ujasiri kuendelea na hali hii na maswahiba wengi walioulizwa na momntoto block wamekiri ugumu huo.

wataalam wanasema wale wanaopata utauzito wakati bado wananyonyesha wanakua kuna maali wanaacha gape in the sense kwamba hawanyonyeshi effectively hivyo kuachia mwanya kwa mwili kuambia akili kua yupo tayari kwa mtoto mwingine. inasemekana ukinyonyesha kila mara especially muda wa usiku inakua ngumu kupata periods na hivyo kufanya iwe ngumnu kupata mimba. tupe experience yako kwenye hili tafadhali....

NO ONE SHOULD MESS WITH HER GIRLS!!

 WHY MICHELLE OBAMA IS A GOOD MOM

Mimi imenivutia na  wewe pia hebu jionee mwenyewe, kama kunalinalokufaa, utajifunza AKINA MAMA MPO HAPO?,

Mothers are the most-honored family members around the world for their selflessness and the love they give to their children.  Mrs. Obama’s love is the sustaining force in her family, and as a Mom, she is making 

 Reasons Why We Love Her!

1) Mrs. Obama is a hands-on Mom.

Even as First Lady, you have said countless times that it is your responsibility to raise your girls and no one else’s.  Hats off to you for keeping your children a priority!:

2) Mrs. Obama is vigilant about what her children put into their mouths.

So that Malia and Sasha don’t suffer from the obesity that is plaguing our children in this country, the Obama girls are not even allowed to go into the fridge to get what they want, they must first ask Mom.  The First Lady is also very concerned about the children in this country; one-third of American kids are overweight (40 percent in African-American and Latino communities) and 17 percent are obese.  Mrs. Obama launched her campaign against childhood obesity, “Let’s Move!” in order to help combat chronic obesity-related health problems like heart disease, high blood pressure, cancer, and asthma by promoting a healthier lifestyle for our kids.

3) Mrs. Obama cares about what her children are exposed to on television.

The First Lady regulates what Sasha and Malia watch.  The First Daughters are not allowed to watch television or be on the computer during the week unless it is related to schoolwork, and even on the weekends, they watch limited television.

4) Mrs. Obama won’t tolerate spoiled brats!

“I want the kids to be treated like children, not little princesses. I told everyone that they should make their beds, they should clean their plates, they should act respectfully—and that if anyone on the staff sees differently, they should come to me,”  Mrs. Obama told Oprah during an O Magazine interview.

5) Mrs. Obama doesn’t believe in children living the life of the rich and famous.

Just because they are the First Daughters doesn’t mean they have cash spilling out of their pockets and credit cards with no limits to spend on frivolous items.  Mrs. Obama only doles out $1 per child for allowance each week.  Hard to believe, right? But get this, Michelle Obama believes the girls have to work for their money and learn the value of a dollar.  They have to make their beds, set the table for meals, clean their rooms and keep their closets tidy as well. Some have criticized the Obamas for giving their girls such a low amount – one critic even urged the President and his wife to “provide a fiscal stimulus” for their kids.

6) Mrs. Obama also doesn’t play at bedtime.

The First Daughters have a set bedtime, 8 p.m., and Mrs. Obama sees to it that her girls adhere to the set time.  Early to bed ensures that they get enough sleep so that they can be at their best and prepare for the day when they get themselves up in the morning.

7) Mrs. Obama continues to work on balancing work and family time.

Although the president’s first term is nearly over, Michelle Obama is still learning to balance her parenting with her public responsibilities, which is something all working Moms struggle with.

8)   Mrs. Obama tries to instill morals in her children.

Instilling the importance of kindness in her girls to not only one another but to other children is important to the First Lady, who abhors bullying.  She tells her daughters to not hold their tongue and that they have a responsibility to speak up when they see acts of bullying.

9) Mrs. Obama has made it clear that no one should mess with her girls! 

The First Lady is like a lioness with her cubs; she is fiercely protective of their privacy. For example, when they are out without her or the President, she does not like for them to be photographed.  Mention of the girls is used primarily to punctuate a story.

10) Mrs. Obama knows what her first job is and always will be.

Mrs. Obama’s feelings about motherhood were summed up best when she first embarked on this presidential journey by stating that as a Mother to her girls, “My first job in all honesty is going to continue to be mom-in-chief. Making sure that in this transition, which will be even more of a transition for the girls… that they are settled and that they know they will continue to be the center of our universe.”

Happy Mother’s Day, Mrs. Obama! We salute you.

By Ruth Manuel Logan

TIPS FOR HAPPY BABY

TIPS FOR HAPPY BABY

1.Have a daily routine and stick to it. Knowing what comes next will make your baby feel more secure.

2.Encourage your baby to try new things. When they’re older, make sure they understand that making mistakes is okay and a natural  part of growing up.

3.Create secure and trusting environment for him/her being there both physically and emotionally. Give her all the love and affection she needs.

4.Never compare your child to others – they will pick up on it and feel insecure.

5.When they’re older be sure to set limits and boundaries. For example say NO when your little one does something they shouldn’t. This will help to create safe environment for their development.

6.Praise her when she does something well. Your baby needs to hear this – it will help her to be proud of herself and she will want to try more challenges.

7.Encourage your baby to interact with other babies and adults. This will boost their confidence and they will want to continue to explore and get to know the people around them.

8.Take your baby to new places -  It will stimulate interest in the world.

9.Listen to your baby even if she’s babbling. This shows you value what she has to say .

10.Be good role model. Children learn by watching you, if for example, you meet a new person, they watch your reaction. If you look calm and happy, it lets her know this is good person and she will feel safe.

MOTHERS DAY

ZAWADI KWA MAMA,

Jumapili tarehe 13th May 2012 ni siku ya mothers day, hebu tuisherehekee siku hii pamoja na mama zetu, Blog yetu ya Mom and Toto inatoa nafasi ya kupost picha yako wewe na mama yako kumtakia heri katika siku hii. Au kama una poem umeiandika mahususi kwa ajili hiyo.

 

Hebu ona ushairi huu kweli unavutiaa sana. jisomee uone

REAL WOMEN,

Is there any way to describe all that woman does?

She gives birth and cares  for little ones.

She mothers her children’s, comfort her family and serve her community.

She is a teacher in a community even when she can’ not read and write. She is a corner stone of life.

She is a freedom fighter who uses a prayers and cry as a weapons.

Shea is a healer, with smile, hugs and love.

She is a leader in a church prayers and big companies.

Her presence is often enough to bring about peace.

She is hard worker who will swallow her pride and do any kind of work just to put a bread on the table.

A real woman stands her ground in face of adversity.

She absorbs the pain of others even that of grown men.

She is unselfish, often to a fault.

To all women in the world don’t give up being what you are because your Gods greatest gift creation.

MPAKA UNIPE ELLA!!!

MPAKA UNIPE ELA!!!

Wazazi sijui tunakwenda wapi, inamaana tunaruhusu mtoto kuwa ombaomba bila sisi mwenyewe kufahamu, Ilo neno” mpaka unipe” ela ni mara nyingi sana kuwasikia watoto wakidai kutoka kwa wazazi wao.

Unaweza kuta mzazi anamtuma mtoto,  labda anamwambia kaoshe vyombo basi, mtoto atakataa na baadae atasema ukunipa pesa nitaosha, au ukininunulia icecream nitaosha, na mzazi utakuta anakubaliana na ombi hilo

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Sawa sikatai tunawapenda watoto wetu sana ila, tuangalie ni mahali gani na wakati gani pa kutoa pesa kama reward au zawadi.

Ukichukulia watoto wa miaka 7 na kuendelea awe wa kike au wa kiume ni umri ambao tunapaswa kama wazazi kuwafundisha shughuli ndogondogo pale nyumbani, na haitakuwa busara hata kidogo kumpatia pesa mtoto akisha fanya au kabla hajafanya kazi yoyote utakayomwambia aifanye. Unachotakiwa kama mzazi ni kumueleza umuhimu wa kujifunza kazi hizo, moja ni kuonyesha kuwa anawajibu wa kusafisha mazingira aliyopo, kusafisha chumba chake, kuondoa vyombo mezazani, kuandaa meza, kutandika kitanda chake mara aamkapo, na mambo mengine madogo madogo.

Na pia wewe mzazi ujivunie kuwa anaweza kufanya hivyo bila kupewa pesa, ilishawahi tokea binti ameolewa mahali fulani, na kwa bahati nzuri au mbaya binti yule wazazi wake walimpenda sana kiasi kwamba  hakuwa anafanya shughuli yoyote alipokuwa nyumbani pa wazazi wake.

Sasa binti yupo kwa mume hajui kupika , na mumewe anataka chakula alichopika mkewe, unajua ilimsumbua sana Yule binti, na hata siku mmoja alitamka “Namlaumu sana mama yangu kwa kunilea vile, hebu ona mimi ni mwanamke aina gani nisiyejua kupika, hakuwahi kunifundisha kupika ati alinipenda sana kila kitu alikuwa anafanya yeye mwenyewe ona sasa naaibika.

Hayo ni maneno ya kusikitika kwa huyo binti, naomba wazazi tuchukulie huo mfano kama changamoto kwetu, hebu tuwafundishe watoto wetu kazi ndogondogo majumbani mwetu.

LISHE BORA KWA WATOTO

AINA YA VYAKULA KUMLIKIZA MTOTO NA FAIDA ZAKE,

 Mama wapya kila siku wanawaza ni jinsi gani wataweza kuwalea watoto wao, hasa inapofika wakati wanatakiwa kuwalikiza vyakula zaidi ya maziwa ya mama. Swali kubwa linakuwa ni aina gani ya chakula wapewe watoto. 

Kwa miezi 4 mpaka 6 ya mwanzo mtoto huwa anajitosheleza na maziwa ya mama kwa lishe au hata wakati mwingine katika maziwa ya kopo kwa wale wasionyonyesha. Kwa wakati huo mama anakuwa na uhakikika wa chakula kinachomtosheleza mtoto wake na upatikanaji wake.

Lakini baada ya miezi 6 na kuendelea mtoto anahitaji zaidi ya maziwa, hapo ndipo unatakiwa umpatie chakula zaidi. Lakini kwa mama ambaye ndio kwanza unalea kwa mara ya kwanza, ni kipindi kigumu sana na cha mashaka makubwa kwani hujui ni chakula gani umpatie mwanae.

Lazima umpatie vyakula vyenye lishe bora.

Vyakula vyenye madini ya chuma ni muhimu sana katika ukuaji wa mtoto, madini ya chuma husaidia uzalishwaji wa haemoglobin( sehemu za chembechembe nyekundu za damu ambazo zinabeba oxygen mwilini), vile vile madini ya chuma yanasaidia ukuaji wa ubongo wa mtoto, mfano mtoto kuwa na kumbukumbu nzuri. Hivyo ni muhimu kumpatia mtoto vyakula vyenye madini ya chuma kila siku.

Vyakula hivyoni kama , nyama ya ngombe,kuku, samaki,mayai ,parachichi, broncoli na spinach.

Vyakula vyenye madini ya zinki.

 Kama ilivyo kwa madini ya chuma zink pia husaidia ubongo wamtoto ukuwe vizuri na katika speed inayotakiwa. Zink inasaidia celli za mwili kukuwa na kujiimarisha zenyewe kupambana na magonjwa. Kama kawaida vyakula vyenye madini ya chuma pia kwa asilimia chache vina madini ya zinki, Vyakula kama Nyama,kuku,samaki.

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Vyakula vya madini ya Calcium na Vitamini D

Calcium ni muhimu kwa kuwa na mifupa imara, na vitamin D husaidia na ni muhimu pia.Maziwa ya mama kwa miezi ile ya mwanzo yamesaidia upatikanaji wa madini hayo ya calcium kwa kipindi cha mwaka mmoja. Kwa upande wa Vitamini D, Doctors wameshauri kuwapatia watoto supplements  kwa sababu kuna vyakula vichache vyenye vitamin D, Lakini kwa kiasi kidogo unaweza kuipata kwenye peanut, yogurt, egg yorks na samaki.

Vyakula vyenye Omega 3s/DHA

Kwa watu wazima omega 3s imesaidia sana ugonjwa wa moyo, vile vile kwa watoto inafaida kama hizo,Kwa umri wa mtoto mdogo husaidia kwa kiasi kikubwa kwenye upande wa kuwa na ubongo wenye afya na macho yenye kuona vizuri, Vyakula vilivyo na omega3s ya kutosha ni samaki aina ya salmon, na avocado

Vyakula vyenye Vitamini A,B,C na E

Hizi vitamins zote nne zinausaidia mwili kuanzia juu mpaka chini, kwa kuweza kuwa na ubongo wenye afya atimaye kuwa na akili timamu, Kuwa na macho yanayoona vizuri,Ngozi inayongaa vizuri, Siri ya kuzipata hizi vitamamini kwenye chakuala cha mtoto pendelea kutumia vyakula kama, caroti, viazi vitamu hivi vina kiwango kikubwa cha vitamin A, Mboga za majani za kijani, ndizi, na maharage zina vitamin B, Nyanya, strawberries , zina Vitamini C,  na mahindi, mchele  zinavitamini E. Hivyo basi akina mama  kwa kuandaa vyakula vya watoto tuzingatie hayo.

KUNYONYA KIDOLE KWA WATOTO.

KUNYONYA KIDOLE KWA WATOTO

Kwa watoto wadogo, kunyonya kidole ni kitu kama cha kawaida vile, ingawa ni kwa watoto wadogo tu, wakati mwingine kunyonya kidole ni njia ya kumfanya mtoto apunguze njaa, ajibembeleze na kujisikia salama,mara nyingi mtoto ataacha  kunyonya kidole akiwa na umri wa miaka 3-6.

Hebu tujiulize kwa nini mtoto anyonye kidole?

Kwa watoto wengi wananyonya kidole kama mbadala wa kula chakula, au kupembelezwa na wakati mwingine ni kujiweka au kujisikia salama, ni kama tabia tu, ambayo mtoto alikuwa nayo tangu akiwa tumboni kwa mama yake, mara nyingi kunyonya kidole kunaletwa na hisia.

Kunyonya kidole kuna madhara kwa baadhi ya watoto watakaoshindwa kuacha kunyonya kidole kwenye umri wa miaka 4.

Inasababisha meno kutojipanga vizuri, wataalamu wa meno wamehusisha matatizo ya kuwa na meno yasiyo jipanga vizuri na kunyonya kidole. Kama mtoto atashindwa acha kunyonya kidole mpaka baada ya miaka 5, kuna uwezekanao mkubwa wa meno yake kutojipanga vizuri, kuota yamebebana, na kupata meno yanayo shindwa kungatana.

Jinsi ya kumsaidia mtoto ili aache kunyonya kidole.

Wazazi huwa wanapata wasiwasi mapema pale mtoto anaposhindwa kuacha kunyonya kidole.Inashauriwa kuwa usimfanye mtoto aache kunyonya kidole akiwa na umri chini ya miaka 4 isipokuwa tu pale utakapoona kuna tatizo linalojitokeza kwa sababu ya kunyonya kwake kidole.

Mara nyingi watoto wanaacha wenyewe kunyonya kidole, ikiwa hatatokea hivyo basi fanya kama hivi.

1.Pendelea kumpataia michezo amabayo itaufanya huo mkono anaonyonya wakati wote uwe busy, kama vile acheze puzzle, achezee toys ili mradi tu awe busy.

2.Akiwa amelala polepole kiondoe kidole mdomoni angalia usimwamshe.

3.Mpe mifano ya marafiki zake walioacha kunyonya kidole, ili umtie moyo nay eye aache.

4.Ongea naye juu ya bacteria wabaya ambao wapo kwenye mazingira ya nje amabayo kupitia kidole chake anaweza kuwapata.

5.Epuka kumwaibisha mbele ya wenzake, kwamba mchekeni jamani ananyonya kidole, usimwadhibu pia .

6.Usitumie njia ya kumtisha au kumwogopesha, kwani kunyonya kidole kwake inaweza kuwa ni emotional problem au anakuwa na stress  na anahitaji kufarajika. Hivyo ni bota kutafuta tatizo la stress na emotional problems zake na kuzitatua kabla hujamlazimisha kuacha kidole.

Makuzi ya watoto yanaitaji uangalifu

wazazi kuna vitu vingi tunakua hatufikirii kama vina effect ila kwa kweli ni muhimu kuwa waangalifu maana vingi vinawaaffect watoto wetu kama sio sasa basi katima maisha yao baadae.

Umewahi kufikiri kwa nini tabia ya kunywa pombe huwa inakua kama ya kurithi kwa watoto wa wanaokunywa? hii ni kwa sababu wengine huwa wanaziona pombe nyumbani na kujua wazazi wake wanakunywa na kwa mtoto kila anachokifanya mzazi ni halali kwake. kwa hivo wengi hujaribu katika umri ambao hawezi kujudge kwamba si kitu kizuri.

Angalia mtoto huyu;

simu ya mkononi noma!!!

SIMU YA MKONONI KWA MUME NA MKE, JE NI SAWA KUANGALIA SIMU YA MWENZIO?

Nisaidieni jamani, mimi ndio kwanza nimeingia kwenye ndoa  ila siku nilipoamua kuolewa na mume wangu nilijua kuwa hakuna siri tena kati yetu sisi kwani ni mwili mmoja sasa,kwa wakristo tunaambiwa kuwa sisi ni mwili mmoja sasa.

Ila kwa upande wangu naona bado hatujawa mwili mmoja, kwani japo najua simu ni private properity ya mtu lakini si kwa mume namke, hebu fikiria unamuona mumeo busy na simu, anatuma na kupokea simu ukimuuliza ati ni marafiki zangu, jamani inakera. Mimi inanikera kiasi kwamba nimeomba ushauri kwa wazoefu wa ndoa,

Binafsi nimesha mwambia mume wangu kuwa, hakuna siri kati yangu mimi nayeye kwani kama alikuwa na mambo binafsi alishayamaliza kabla hajanioa mimi, hivyo sioni sababu kuwa na siri, hii ikiwa ni pamoja na kutoangalia sms zinazotumwa ndani ya simu yake, sio kama si muamini ila nataka kujua ni nani aliyetuma sms ilo tu. Nina haki ya kujua kila kitu kinachoendele katika maisha yake, kama yeye alivyo na wajibu wa kujua maisha yangu pia .

Nisaidieni.  

REAL WOMEN

WHO IS A REAL WOMEN,

REAL WOMEN,

Is there any way to describe all that woman does?

She gives birth and cares  for little ones.

She mothers her children’s, comfort her family and serve her community.

She is a teacher in a community even when she can’ not read and write. She is a corner stone of life.

She is a freedom fighter who uses a prayers and cry as a weapons.

Shea is a healer, with smile, hugs and love.

She is a leader in a church prayers and big companies.

Her presence is often enough to bring about peace.

She is hard worker who will swallow her pride and do any kind of work just to put a bread on the table.

A real woman stands her ground in face of adversity.

She absorbs the pain of others even that of grown men.

She is unselfish, often to a fault.

To all women in the world don’t give up being what you are because your Gods greatest gift creation.

Hivi hii ni sawa? au ni unyanyasaji?

kuna kisingizio au excuse ya ubize au kutokua na mtu wa kukusaidia hadi kumweka mtoto katika hali hii? mtoto anabebwa na mti? jamani kidogo haiingii akilini.

Nakubali, wengi wetu tumelelewa katika mazingira magumu ila inapawa kufikia hapa? mtoto huyu akakua sawa kiakili kweli?

Mdau post your comments on this.

BED ROOMS FOR GIRLS/BOYS

Kuna mdau mmoja wa blog hii ameomba nimsaidie kuuliza kwamba , ni umrigani ndio haswa unafaa kumtenganisha mtoto kutoka chumbani kwako na kumuwekea chumba chake mwenyewe.

Kwa watu wengine huwa mtoto anakuwa na chumba chake anapokuwa na umri wa miaka mitatu na kuendelea, ila kunakuwa na wakati mgumu kwani inabidi wewe mama katika muda tofauti usiku kwenda kumchungulia na kumuangalia kuwa amelalaje.

Ilikuvutia mtoto apende kuwa na chumba chake mwenyewe ni vizuri kukiwekea furniture zinazovutia pamoja na rangi zinazovutia, Mfano watoto wa kiume wanapenda sana rangi za blue, na watoto wa kike wanapenda sana rangi za pink. hebu tazama hapo chini.

Huwezi amini wapo watoto wanaopenda kuwa na vyumba vyao wenyewe, tena wanadai kabisa, kuna umri mtoto akifika anapenda kuwa na mambo yake mwenyewe, hivyo ni wazo zuri na vizuri tuwasaidie kama uwezo huo upo.

MTOTO WA NJE YA NDOA NI NANI?

MTOTO WA NJE YA NDOA NI NANI,

Mtoto aliyezaliwa baada ya wazazi au mzazi wake kufunga ndoa ni mtoto aliyezaliwa nje ya ndoa, hii haimualalishi  mtoto huyo kuwa mtoto wa ndani ya ndoa hata kama wazazi wake waliomzaa watakuja funga ndoa baadae.

Kumbe ndio maana utaona watu wengi waliochumbiana, wanafunga ndoa hata kama wamekwisha peana ujauzito, Wapo wale wanosubiri mwenzi wake ajifunguo ndio afunge ndoa, ni jambo zuri lakini sijui kama unafahamu kuwa, utakapo mzaa huyo mtoto na kisha uende ukafunge ndoa, mtoto utakaye mzaa ni mtoto wan je ya ndoa hata kama uliyefunga nae ndoa ndiye baba wa  mtoto huyo.

Unaweza kuwa mmoja wa waliojifungua   kwanza , na kisha kufunga ndoa swali langu ni kwamba kisheria kuna njia yoyote ile ya kumualalisha mtoto huyo uliyemzaa kabla hujafunga ndoa ili naye awe mtoto wa ndoa?

Inapendeza na ni vizuri kuwa na watoto wote ndani ya ndoa ,ila kunakuwa na sababu nje ya uwezo wa mtu zinazopelekea kuzaa nje ya ndoa, lakini pia huenda kuna njia ya kurekebisha hali hiyo, yaani kumhalalisha mtoto huyo wan je ya ndoa ,kama kuna mtu yeyote anayefahamu ni namna gani tunaweza kumhalalisha mtoto wan je ya ndoa  tunaomba ushauri wako.

UMEKISAJILI CHETI CHAKO CHA NDOA?

Wengi wetu tunafahamu kuwa ukishafunga ndoa halali, kwa wakristo au waislam ni lazima utapatiwa cheti cha ndoa. Ni uthibitisho kwamba watu wawili hao ni mke na mume. Lakini kumbe  vyeti hivyo vinatakiwa pia kusajiliwa na serikali, hivyo basi mume au mke unatakiwa uvipeleke vyeti hivyo kwenye ofisi za Wakala wa Usajili na Udhamini (RITA) huko sasa vinasajiliwa tena.

Kwa kufanya hivyo unakuwa na uhakika ya kuwa ndoa yako inatambulika pia katika serikali ya nchi yako, na pia inasaidia sana kwa kutunza kumbukumbu ambazo kwa sababu mbalimbali za kudai haki hasa kwa akina mama, endapo kuna tatizo la kisheria utakalokuwa nalo.

Mimi ni mwenzenu nilikuwa sijui, lakini baada ya kufahamishwa nilikwenda kusajili cha kwangu inabidi niwashirikishe na nyie pia, wewe mama ambaye ndiye unayetunza Documents zote hapo nyumbani kwako chukuwa hatua na ue nde RITA.  

USHAURI ALIOKUPA MAMA

Mila na desturi zetu tuliowengi,hapa Tanzania zinafanana, hasa pale binti anapoolewa au anapooa huwa anapewa ushauri, na wazazi, ndugu na marafiki waliomtangulia kwenye upande huo wa kuoa na kuolewa.

Lakini basi mama na mwana huwa wanakuwa na faragha zaidi kuongelea swala hilo kwa undani, kwani kama ni binti nafikiri utafunguka zaidi kumueleza mama yako wasiwasi au hofu yoyote uliyonayo, na mara nyingi mama yako atakupa ushauri au jinsi ambayo ukiitumia katika maisha yako ya ndoa, ndoa yako itadumu sana.

Napenda kushirikiana na wewe katika mjadala huu ushauri wangu alionipa mama yangu ambao kwao umeniwezesha kuishi na mume wangu na sasa ni zaidi ya miaka kumi,

( mama alisema unaolewa utakuwa na watoto mungu akipenda, utawapenda sana watoto wako, lakini usiache kumpenda mume wako, zaidi ya yote uipende ndoa yako, kwani bila kuwa na maelewano na mwanandoa mwenzio, ndoa yako haitadumu.) Mwanamke mpumbavu huivunja ndoa yake kwa mikono yake mwenyewe.

Je wewe mama yako alikuambia nini? hebu tushirikishe

JE MWANAUME NI MTOTO ASIYEKUWA?

JE WAJUA BABA ZETU, WAUME  ZETU NI WATOTO WASIOKUWA????

Hivi wenzangu mmejaribu kufikiria kwa nini wanaume zetu ni kama watoto  wasio kua?


Mpaka  hivi leo wewe kama mama ukirudi nyumbani utatakiwa kumuhudumia mumeo kama vile unavyomuhudumia mtoto wako.

Tulipokuwa wadogo, wazazi wetu walituhudumia kwa kila kitu, ikiwa ni pamoja na kutupa malezi bora , kutupeleka shule, na  kutupatia vitu vingine vingi ambavyo kama wazazi walitufanyia sisi watoto  kwa  upendo. Japokuwa kuna baadhi ya wazazi   ambao kwa bahati mbaya hawakuwa wanachukuwa nafasi zao za kuwalea watoto wao waliowaleta hapa duniani kwa pamoja yaani, wazazi wote wawili.   wapo baadhi ya wazazi waliowatelekeza watoto na  mama zao au wengine walio watelekeza watoto na baba zao.

Sasa basi kwa wale walitelekezwa na mzazi mmojawapo yaani baba au mama huwa wanapata taabu sana katika makuzi yao, wanashindwa kujua umuhimu wa Yule mzazi aliyemtelekeza.  Wengi wa waathirika wa tatizo hili huwa wanafikiria kulipiza kisasi kwa mzazi aliyemtelekeza, kwa kutomtunza kama mzazi na kumpatia mahitaji yake muhimu pindi anapokuwa na fedha zake na uwezo wa kumsaidia mzazi wake huyo, aidha mama au Baba .

Kwa asilimia kubwa akina baba ndio wanaoongoza katika  kutelekeza  familia zao yaani mama na watoto . Hivyo basi kama kawaida ya mama ambaye kwa sehemu kubwa ndiye  mlezi wa familia ndiye  atahangaika sana kwa kuwalea watoto wake, na mara nyingi watoto watakuwa karibu sana na mama yao kwa kumfariji na kumuhaidi kuwa watafanya vizuri shuleni ili watapokuwa wakubwa wakipata kazi watamtunza kulipia yale yote aliyoyafanya kwaokama fadhila.

Na kweli mungu huwa anawabariki watoto hao kwa nafasi zao mbali mbali, na hapo ndipo utaona baba anajitokeza na kuanza kuwatambua watoto na kuanza kuomba msaada lakini sasa inakuwa vigumu sana kwa mzazi huyo kupata msaada, kwani yeye ndiye aliyewatelekeza hapo awali na huwa hawaoni sababu ya kumsaidia. Hapo sasa mama anabidi atumie busara zake tena kuwaambia watoto wake umuhimu wa kumsaidia tena baba yao na kumpatia nafasi baba yao katika maisha yao

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Kama Ujuavyo mama anaweza vyote, Japokuwa ni mama huyo aliyelekezwa na watoto  akaangaika kwa taabu sana  kuwalea na kuwasomesha mpaka watoto wamefanikiwa, bado tena ni mama huyohuyo anayewasihi watoto kumsamehe baba yao ili waanze kumpenda na kumtunza kama wanavyomfanyia yeye. Hapo sasa ndio tunapata usemi ule kwamba mwanaume ni mtoto asiyekuwa kwani mama ameshalea watoto wameshakuwa lakini mpaka leo bado anamlea mume wake, kwa kuwa mtetezi wake kwa watoto aliowatelekeza, kwa kumfulianguo zake, kwa kumuandalia chakula chake,na zaidi ya yote kumpenda zaidi .

ARE THESE KIDS PHOTOGENIC??

SPENDING TIME WITH YOUR FAMILY IS PRICELESS

1.Work is never ending process, You can never finish the works.


2.Interest of  your client is not more important than your family.


3.If you fail in life your boss or client will not be the person to offer a helping hand but your family and friends will do.


4.Life does not mean coming to office, going home and sleeping,. There is more to a life, You need time to socialize,entertainment,exercise and relaxation. Don't make your life meaningless.


5. A person who sits in the office still late is not hardworking person. He is a fool who does not know how to manage works within the stipulated time, Beside , he is a loser in life who does not have personal or social life.


6.You did not study hard and struggle in life to be a machine and live meaningless life.


7.If your boss force you to work late, just forward him this massage, He will try to make his life meaningful too.


Leave office on time,more productivity,good social life, good family relationship


Leave office late,less productivity,no social life, no family life the choice is yours

JE WATOTO WANAOFUATANA NI LAZIMA WAGOMBANE?

Hili ni swali kutoka kwa mdau wa blog hii, yeye ana watoto wake wawili wamefuatana, wa kwanza ana miaka 7 na wa pili anamiaka 6. Anawapenda sana watoto wake hii ni kawaida kwa mzazi yeyote yule kuwapenda watoto wake unconditional ila kitu kinachomsumbua hajui ni namna gani ataweza kuwa control ili wasigombane, 

Huyo mtoto mkubwa yeye mara nyingi ndiye anayeanza uchokozi, anaweza kumpiga mwenzie bila sasabu yoyote, anaweza kumfinya au anamvuta nywele ili mradi tu ni vurugu humo ndani.Kunakuwa na kelele vilio basi hujui hata usaidie yupi.

Ili kuweka mazingira salama inabidi kuwachukuwa wote na kuwauliza kwa nini wanagombana na kusuluisha huo ugomvi, lakini baada ya muda mfupi wanaanza tena. Sasa naomba ushauri wenu wenzangu wenye watoto wanaogombana kama wangu.

Ni jukumu la nani kutoa hela za matumizi Home?

Wandugu, hivi kwa dunia ya leo ni nani mwenye jukumu la kutoa hela ya matumizi nyumbani? ni Baba, Mama au wote?

Kwenye vikao tunavyokaa siku hizi inaelekea trend ibebadilika, Mama zetu walikua wakitegemea kila kitu kutoka kwa waume zao na wanaume walikua wakisikia proud to do that, life ya siku hizi wanawake wanatafuta zaidi hata ya hao wanaume. Hivi ni kwa nini? is it that we are competing au? naambiwa wababa wengine either wamepunguza kujihusisha kwao na familia huku wengine wakisema wanawake ndo wamejiongezea majukumu ambayo hayawahusu.

NANI MKWELI KATI YA HAWA? tupe maoni yako!

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MPANGILIO WA WATOTO NA TABIA ZAO

Ni kawaida kwa mzazi akiwa na mtoto zaidi ya mmoja, kuwalinganisha hasa tabia zao, tangu pale walipozaliwa., Utakuta huyu alikuwa analia sana , labda huyu alikuwa analala sana huyu ni mpole au huyu ni mtundu n.k

Hata hivyo  watoto hao  wanapozidi kukuwa tabia na maumbile yao huzidi kutofautiana siku hadi siku. Mara nyingi muonekano wao hutofautiana kiasi kwamba ni vigumu kutambua kuwa  ni watoto wa mama na baba mmoja.

Katika miaka mingi watafiti wemegundua kuwa kuna uhusiano mkubwa wa tabia za watoto na mpangilio wa kuzaliwa. Kwa mfano watoto wa kwanza kuzaliwa,mtoto wa pili, na wamwisho.

Mtoto wa kwanza.

Mtoto wa kwanza katika familia mara nyingi anawajibika juu ya wenzake,anakuwa na mpangilio wa mambo yake,huwa anafanikiwa katika mambo yake, na huwa anonyesha mfano mzuri wa kuwa kiongozi mbele ya wadogo zake. Yeye huwa anakuwa ndiye kinara wa tabia njema au anayefanya vitu ambavyo wazazi huwa wanapenda, na mara nyingi anafanya hivyo kama mfano kwa wadogo zake.kama kuna watoto wadogo hapo nyumbani mtoto wa kwanza anakuwa kama yeye ndio mlezi na wadogo zake wanapenda kujifunza kutoka kwake

Mara nyingi wanakuwa na malengo ya kufanya vizuri shuleni na marazote wanapata mafanikio kwa sababu wanajitahidi sana.Kwa bahati mbaya mara nyingine kwa sababu ya kutaka sana kufanikiwa kunamsababishia msongo wa mawazo ambao si vizuri sana kwa watoto.

Mtoto wa kati

Mtoto wa katikati mara nyingi anachukuliwa kuwa mtoto mgumu sana kumuelewa, Mara nyingi mtoto huyu hapati nafasi ya kupendwa kama alivyokuwa mtoto wa kwanza au wa mwisho, huwa anaona anatengwa na ni vigumu sana kwake kuona ni mwelekeo upi aende. Na mara nyingi anakuwa na mtazamo tofauti wa nini afanye au nani awe, ili kujitofautisha na mkubwa wake,  na mara nyingi huwa ni mtafiti na huwa anapenda kujaribu vitu    ambavyo ni vigumu kujua matokeo yake.

Mtoto wa mwisho

Mtoto wa mwisho ni mtoto wa familia, ni mtoto ambaye kila mmoja ndani ya familia anawajibika kumuangalia. Wazazi wanapenda kumpendelea na mara nyingi zile sheria wazazi walizoweka huwa kwa mtoto huyu wa mwisho azizingatiwi tena.

WA MAMA WA LEO WANASEMA!!!!!

Kwa wamama wa leo, tunao wasaidizi majumbani mwetu, ila tusipokuwa waangalifu na kuwa watu tunaofuatilia mambo yanayoendele majumbani mwetu kwa kweli tutajikuta tumefika pabaya,

Tunawapenda sana watoto wetu je unajua ni wakati gani wa kuanza kumshirikisha mtoto wako awe wa kike au wa kiume kufanya kazi ndogo ndogo kama vile, kutandika kitanda chake mwenyewe, kuandaa meza wakati dada au mama anapika chakula, kufua nguo zake za ndani mwenyewe n.k

Unaweza kuanza kumfundisha mtoto kufanya vitu vidogovidogo kwa kuanzia chumbani kwake, akiwa na umri wa miaka miwili unaweza kumfundisha kuokota matoi yake aliyoyasambaza chumbani kwake, kisha unamfundisha kutandika kitanda, na kwa vile anavyozidi kukuwa na idadi ya matoi yanaongezeka ni vizuri pia kumfundisha kutoa zile toi ambazo hazimfai kwa maana amekuwa mkubwa na awapatie watoto wengine wechezee..

Ili kuwatengenezea mazingira ya kujiamini unaweza pia kuwanunulia mbwa, au paka au kuku au mnyama yoyote ambaye wanampenda ili wajifunze kuwajibika, mfano  ikiwa wanapenda mbwa wajitahidi kuhakikisha kuwa huyo mbwa anakula, hapo tayari unakuwa umewafundisha kuwajibika japo si wao walio andaa chakula ila watakukumbusha kumpatia mbwa chakula.,

Wanavyozidi kukuwa wanaweza pia kujiandalia chai, kama kuna snacks za kubeba kwenda nazo shule wataweza kujiandalia pia , inabidi tuwape nafasi na sio kuwaambia we acha, mwambie dada, au dada atafua, sawa dada anaweza kufanya kazi zote lakini unamfundisha nini mtoto wako?

  

UMRI WA KUMWANZISHIA MTOTO CHAKULA KIGUMU

Mtoto wako atakuwa tayari kuanza vyakula vigumu akiwa na umri wa miezi sita. usije akamwanzishia chakula kigumu akiwa na chini ya miezi sita, kwa sababu utumbo wa mtoto unakuwa haujaweza kusaga vyakula vigumu akiwa na miezi chini ya sita. Na pia anaweza kupata allegies.

Kwa kuanza unaweza kumtengenezea kiugali kilaini sana, tumia unga wa mahindi au mchele.

Ukiona ameshazoea unaweza sasa kumwanzishia kitu kingine, mfano mboga mboga na matunda,, Mfano mboga za majani mchicha na matembele,matunda kama papai, viazi vitamu, viazi mbatata na vingine kama maboga n.k.

Inashauriwa kutompa mtoto maziwa ya ng'ombe, asali na ute ule mweupe wa mayai mpaka afike mwaka mmoja.

kwa kuanza kumpa mtoto hicho chakula kigumu kinatakiwa kisagwe ama kwa kutumia blenda au kipekecho, hakikisha chakula hicho kinakuwa laini, Ila kila anavyozidi kukuwa unaongeza ugumu wa chakula hicho.

Unapomwanzishia mtoto chakula kipya ,unatakiwa umpe kwa siku 2 au3 mfululizo, ilikuguundua kuwa chakula hicho hakina madhara kwake hutaweza kugundua kama utampa kwa siku moja tu, madhara ninayo yazungumzia ni kama allegies.

kwa kuanza unatakiwa umpatie si chini ya vijiko viwili vya chai, uwe unaongeza kipimo kadri siku zinavyoongezeka. kama ikitokea mtoto hajakipenda chakula usikate tamaa, mwanzishie tena chakula hicho hicho alichokikataa siku nyingine tena mpaka atazoea.

Chakula cha mtoto hakitakiwi kuwekwa chumvi, sukari au viungo vyovyote, unatakiwa usafi wa kutosha wakati wa maandalizi ya chakula hicho

Kwa upande wa gharama , chakula kinachoandaliwa na mama nyumbani kina gharama kidogo kulinganisha na kile kinacho unzwa madukani, hivyo basi ili kupunguza ngarama ni vizuri kukiandaa chakula cha mtoto wewe mama mwenyewe.

Kumbuka( Babies don't need sweets not even a lollpop)

Do you what to win your Wives Husbands... ?

10 things your wife want to hear!

1. “Thanks for all you do for our family.”

Yes, you work hard. You might even feel that your load is a million times heavier than your wife’s. But your wife works hard, too…and a little thanks goes a long way.

2. “You are a great mom and wife.”

If you really want to make her day, go beyond saying “thank you” and praise her for doing a good job.

3. “Let me do that for you.”

Your wife realizes you are exhausted when you get home from work. She probably is too. So offer to help out. Start with something small like cleaning up after dinner. Or, if you really want to score points, do something else you normally don’t do.

4. “I love you so much.”

Did you notice the extra words, after the “I love you?” Telling your wife you love her is a great start, but telling her why you love her, how much you love her, or that you’ll love her forever, will melt her heart.

5. “You are beautiful.”

No matter her age, her size or how long you’ve been married, a woman loves to hear that you think she’s attractive. And, don’t just say, “You look nice.” Instead, use adjectives like, great, lovely, fantastic.

6. “Let me watch the kids.”

If you already watch your children regularly, good job! If you don’t, think of it this way. When you offer to take care of the children, your wife gets to recharge her batteries. A wife with a recharged battery is usually more patient, kind and loving.

7. “Let’s go out tonight.”

Take charge of your next date night. This shows your wife that you enjoy spending time with her.

8. “I’m sorry you had a hard/frustrating/disappointing day.”

These words let your wife know that you are aware of what’s going on in her life.

9. “I would marry you all over again.”

In one sentence you’re telling your wife you value your life together and that you’re committed to her.

10. “How can I be a better husband to you?”
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Women are very easy animal to deal with if you know what button to press!  this is almost all that we need guys! ....do your rehearsals on these!

Is it only my husband?

Jamani na nyie waume zenu wapo kama wangu? It’s now three months tangu nimejifungua mtoto wangu wa kwanza, nimeolewa na ninampenda mume wangu. Ila jamani du… yani kama vile mtoto huyu ni wa kwangu mwenyewe. Akitoka kazini analala chumba chake wakati mie nahangaika na mtoto usiku kucha na anasikia anavyolia bila kuona msaada wake… nimejaribu kumwambia anasema yeye anawahi kazini asubuhi mimi siendi kazini bado. Hivi hii ni kawaida ? Kwa sababu nachoka eti jamani… inakera lo!

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Wadau michango ni mizuri so far; tuendelee kusaidiana, some wanasema wanaume wanaogopa watoto wadogo ndio maana wanakua hawatusaidii early days after delivery, wengine wanasema hawana experience, na wengi wanasema tuwe wawazi kuwaambia watusaidie;
   Bado swali lipo kwamba ni kweli hizi sababu ndo toshelezi za kuwafanya wanaume wasiwe wa maana sana wakati sie bado tunaumwa na tunaitaji misaada yao? Eti ni kweli ni kwa sababu ya uoga wa watoto wachanga kweli kweli?... is it ukosefu wa huruma katika mioyo yao au ni nini? na ni kwa nini wengine wanaweza wengine hawawezi? au ndo tunakua hatujapendwa vizuri sie?

Tufanye nini kurekebisha segment hii kubwa ya wanaume hawa?......

Je ni sawa kumuweka mtoto dawa kwenye nywele

Ni kawaida sana siku izi kumuona mtoto wa miaka miwili akiwa amewekwa dawa,  sidhani kama ni kwa uamuzi wake au ni wamzazi wake.

Tunapenda sana watoto wetu wapendeze, na tunawapenda sana lakini sidhani kama kuweka dawa ndio njia pekee ya kumpendezesha mtoto.

Kuna njia kama kumvalisha vibanio hata kama ananywele fupi, kuna kumtoga masikio ,lakini pia outfit ya mtoto wako ikiwa nzuri mtoto anapendeza, au kumsuka rasta bila kuzikaza, na zisiwe nyingi. Check picha hii;

kuna umri ambao watoto wao wenyewe wanapenda kusuka, na pia wanapenda kuweka dawa, kama wazazi tunapaswa kuwashauri watoto kutoweka dawa nywele wanapokuwa bado wapo shuleni, Hii pia inapunguza ngarama kwako wewe mzazi. Mfano hebu muone huyu binti akiwa na nywele zake ambazo hajaweka dawa, zinatamanisha jamani.

Wakati mwingine watoto wanapokwenda shule za bording inatulazimu kuwakata wototo nywele ambazo wao wenywewe hawapendi kuzikata, Kwa kweli kwa binti ambaye anapenda nywele zake huwa anatamani kulia, Kama mzazi inabidi kumuelimisha binti yako ili akubali, kwani elimu ni bora kuliko nywele. Huyo binti hapo alizikata nywele zake japokuwa alizipenda sana hebu ona

PASAKA HIYOOOO YAJA

Kwa wakristo pasaka ni sikukuu ya kukumbuka kufa na kufufuka kwa mwokozi wao, hivyo basi huwa kunakuwa na pilikapilika nyingi kwa ajili ya sikukuu hiyo, watoto huwa wananunuliwa nguo mpya, zawadi mbalimbali, zaidi ya yote wanafunzi pia hufunga shule kwa ajili ya kusherehekea sikukuu hiyo.

wafanyakazi za maofisini alikadhalika huwa wanapumzika pia.

Je ni lazima kumnunulia mtoto nguo mpya kwa ajili ya sikukuu hiyo, au nguo zinunuliwe wakati wowote wa mwaka?

Maana imekuwa kama ni desturi ya wengi wetu kuwanunulia watoto nguo katika misimu ya sikukuu , sasa basi inaweza tokea kwa bahati mbaya sikukuu imefika na wewe huna pesa ya kununulia watoto nguo za sikukuu Utatuaje huo mzozo? maana patakuwa hapotoshi.

Hebu tusaidiane huu mjadala, maana nishaanza ulizwa vipi nguo za sikukuu ? nisaidieni jamani

Happy Birthday Lorna and Ivana

                                  Happy be la ted Birthday Lorna, Just 1 will be 2 soon

                                      Like I,m so happy, I cannot believe It

                                   IVana , let me help you sister you cant blow!!!!!

                                     I wish it was my Birthday (kemi pleasing herself)
 Je kumlazimisha mtoto kuacha kunyonya kidole ni sawa sawa, au ataacha    mwenyewe akipenda.